• Kimmy Pang

Good vibes only

You can't control what people think of you, but you can only make sure you're happy with who you've become

People only show you what they want you to see on social media. And that's true. It doesn't mean I haven't dealt with personal struggles in my life, I just chose to overcome them in a more positive manner.


People can be vicious with both their actions and their words; and this was one of my biggest struggles over the years. It's upsetting to think about the extent people are willing to go to to make your life miserable, just because they can. I know it sounds cliché but negativity does breed negativity. You can be doing all the right things, but when someone's made up their mind that you're no good, everything that comes after will always be a blur.

Eventually all of it will pass, so be patient. Don't let them hinder you from doing the things you want to do. Just keep being you, and don't lose yourself in their mess. It's not going to be easy, but I promise you, it does get easier.


I do believe that everyone is unique in their own way; but it does seem like if you go against the norm, it becomes unacceptable. People can judge you without looking at themselves first and that's just how it is. If the people you call your friends aren't going to accept you for the things that make you who you are, then I'd suggest maybe thinking twice about the company you have. It gets more difficult to be your own person if you constantly need to deal with "friends" who're going to give you a hard time. No one likes being around people who don't make you feel good about yourself.

Only change yourself for the better, but don't do it just to fit in. There's no point in doing so, cause no one would appreciate it even if you did. You'll only lose sight of what matters most: you. So, be you, and own it. I've learned to ignore (most of the time) the things I'm judged for because I'm the one living my life, not anyone else.

Self esteem

All the drama in your life can and eventually will take a toll on you. You might start wondering, whether it was you all along; and start questioning everything single thing you do. You'd become less willing to put yourself out there to meet new people, afraid that the whole cycle might just start again. I was reluctant to break out of my shell, but I realised I was closing myself to new opportunities, so I forced myself to take a step forward; and I'm glad I did.

It does take time to rebuild the confidence again, ready to take on whatever comes your way. That's just how life works. You'll learn and grow from your experiences whether good or bad. You make your choices and you live with them, and I have no regrets so far. I chose to focus on developing myself and I am proud of what I've achieved and how far I've come. Just keep your head held high, and keep on going.

Dear readers, if you feel like you’re going through this, you’re not alone. Don’t let it get the best of you, and just keep reminding yourself that the storm will soon pass. Just keep staying true to yourself; but if you don’t like what you’re seeing, then do something about it.  Much love and hope you enjoyed this read x

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